NFL Gets it Right on Domestic Violence Among Players

BREAKING NEWS — The Baltimore Ravens have terminated the contract of running back Ray Rice, the team announced today, the same day a shocking video surfaced showing the NFL star punching his then-fiancee in February. 

If you don’t know why this happened – let me share a report by CNN.

My next question is WHY did she marry him after this attack and when can she get the help she needs. This is an article that I thought had some disturbing information about her, their relationship, his trial and their marriage –

Ray Rice terminated after newly released video shows NFL star punch fiancee

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The Baltimore Ravens have terminated the contract of running back Ray Rice, the team announced Monday, the same day a shocking video surfaced showing the NFL star punching his then-fiancee in February.

The news release from the NFL team was terse.

“The Baltimore Ravens terminated the contract of RB Ray Rice this afternoon,” it read.

Rice had been suspended by the league for the first two games of the season, a controversial move that led to widespread criticism and to the league re-evaluating the punishment for domestic violence cases.

The new video shows Rice punching Janay Palmer, who is now his wife, inside an elevator at a hotel in Atlantic City, New Jersey, seven months ago.

TMZ Sports posted the video Monday showing Rice and Palmer entering an elevator. Inside the elevator, Rice punches Palmer. Palmer lunges after Rice, and then Rice hits her back and she falls to the floor.

Previously, TMZ Sports had released hotel surveillance video of Rice dragging an unconscious Palmer out of the elevator. This is the first time video has been released that shows Rice punching her.

A few months after the incident, NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell suspended Rice without pay and fined him an additional game check for “conduct detrimental to the NFL.” However, no one in the NFL offices, including Goodell, had seen the newly released footage of the incident until Monday, the league told CNN.

Ray Rice: ‘My actions were inexcusable’

“We requested from law enforcement any and all information about the incident, including the video from inside the elevator,” NFL senior vice president of communications Greg Aiello said. “That video was not made available to us and no one in our office has seen it until today.”

The NFL has previously said that Rice entered a pretrial intervention program in May. Under the program, he won’t be prosecuted, and the charges will be expunged after one year.

In a press conference in July, Rice said his actions were “inexcusable” and that he and his wife are in counseling.

“We’re taking the necessary steps to move forward,” he said. “My job is to lead my family. My job is to lead my wife. My job is to lead in whatever I do. And If I’m not being the example, then my family crumbles.”

Goodell has already been scrutinized for suspending Rice for just two games, months after the first video aired. Many felt the suspension wasn’t enough, and in August, the commissioner himself agreed.

In a letter to all NFL team owners, he said the league had fallen short of its goals in its handling of the Rice case: “We allowed our standards to fall below where they should be and lost an important opportunity to emphasize our strong stance on a critical issue and the effective programs we have in place.”

“I didn’t get it right. Simply put, we have to do better. And we will,” he added.

Some NFL fans have questioned why Ravens head coach John Harbaugh would call Rice “one heck of a guy,” and why the Ravens would tweet out “Janay Rice says she deeply regrets the role that she played the night of the incident.”

They have also questioned why Cleveland Browns receiver Josh Gordon would be suspended for a year after testing positive for marijuana when Rice was suspended for just two games.

In his August letter to team owners, Goodell said the league will institute a six-game unpaid suspension for personnel who violate the league’s personal conduct policy when it relates to domestic violence. A second domestic violence incident would be punished by a lifetime ban from the league.

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Melanie’s Memorial

1185570_10201717732016090_1739868780_nLemoore, CA was quiet on the morning of Friday, September 13, 2013.  A pall hung over the line of mourners waiting to enter South Valley Community Church.  Morning sun highlighted silent tears that streamed down drawn cheeks.  White tissues fluttered in the barely-there breeze, a stark contrast to the dark clothing of grief.  Everyone wanted to be there to honor Melanie Pate, a 42 year old mother, who was loved by so many—no one wanted to be there to say goodbye to the vibrant young woman.  It was too final, an end to her story, much too soon.

But, that’s where grief misleads us.  Melanie’s story is not over.  She leaves behind a handsome son to carry on her legacy.  Karter is young, only 12 years old, but, as a talented pitcher on the Grizzlies, he is already ensconced in Melanie’s world of baseball.  Melanie was an integral part of the Cal Ripkin League.  Until two years ago, she served on the Board of Directors of Hanford Youth Baseball.  As a parent volunteer, she served countless hours as scorekeeper.  Friends describe Melanie as a “firecracker,” always on the go, always defending and encouraging the kids no matter which team they were on227991_227190563964777_3626138_n.

“She had such a love for the kids,” said Glenda Champlin of Hanford, state commissioner for Babe Ruth baseball.  “She loved her son, but she loved every child equally when they were out on the ball field.”

Mike Caudillo, state commissioner for Central Valley Cal Ripkin, said Melanie volunteered as scorekeeper for tournaments around the Valley.  “She was really good at it,” he said.  “She liked doing it and everyone liked her.  It was a natural for her.”

My cousin, Linda Sue Lawrence, Melanie’s mother and Karter’s grandma, will continue Melanie’s baseball journey with Karter.  Maybe not as scorekeeper, but most certainly as a cheerleader for her favorite pitcher.  May God grant Linda strength and courage.  It’s not easy to carry on with a broken heart, but she will for Karter.

Yes, tears flowed in the church as a recording of Garth Brooks carried over the mourners who filled the sanctuary, including the balcony.  We sobbed as the pastor mentioned the senseless murder of Melanie by her husband, Todd Pate.  But, he encouraged us not to ask why.  Why a marriage of 22 years ended in such tragedy.  Why a husband, who had vowed to love and honor his wife, would kill her so mercilessly.  Why a mother must be left bereft without her loving daughter.  Why a young son is left without his mother, or his father, who is in custody pending trial.  Sometimes it’s not for us to know, but just to be reassured that God has the answers, and we must turn to Him for comfort.

Grief makes us appear small, as we curl into ourselves in an unconscious act of protection.  I wanted to enfold my cousin, Linda, in my arms and give her some small reserve of my strength.  I wanted to encourage her, but what can you say?  All we can do is offer love and prayers, and really, isn’t that the best gift of all?

I love you, Linda, and pray for you and Karter daily.  Our Lord will sustain you. 

Sandra Kay

To Those I Love and Those Who Loved Me

When I am gone, release me. Let me go
I have so many things to see and do.
You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears, Be
happy, we had so many years.

I gave you my love and you can only guess
How much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love you each have shown
But now it’s time I traveled alone.

So grieve a while for me if grieve you must
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It’s only for a while that we must part
So bless those memories in your heart.

I won’t be far away for life goes on
So if you need me , call and I will come.
Though you can’t see or touch me, I’ll be near
with all my love around you soft and clear.

And then, when you must come this way alone,
I’ll greet you with a smile and “Welcome You

Author: Unknown

Murder too Close to Home

Melanie PateThis is a very sad post for me to write.  Melanie Pate, my cousin’s daughter, was slain yesterday by her husband.  As you can see from the picture she was a beautiful woman, but you would have to know her personally to see how beautiful she was on the inside.

Melanie was just 42 years old; a mother of two.  Few details are available, yet, but her husband, Todd Pate, 50, called the Hanford Police Dept. to report that he had just killed his wife.  When authorities arrived at the home, they found Mel in the backyard pool, with throat lacerations.  She was pronounced dead at the scene.  Her husband was arrested and booked into the King’s County Jail.  He was charged with criminal homicide.

There had not been prior calls to the home for domestic abuse, so what happened on this day?  Everything is confusing right now.  We only know for sure that a beautiful young woman is no longer with her family.  Her kids have lost their mother, and their father will surely go to prison.  My cousin has lost a daughter, whom she was very close to.  The entire family is in shock.

I just saw Mel in July when I drove up to the Hanford area to attend her aunt’s funeral.  My eyes fill with tears when I think that this vibrant person is gone forever from this earth.  We will see her again in heaven.

A candlelight vigil is planned for Wednesday evening.

MSNBC Has Topped Itself – Or Has Hit a New Low

Are they kidding is the only possible response to Toure’.

I have a good friend who is an occasional guest on MSNBC and I feel bad for my friend every time this idiot opens his mouth. Notice the others at the table don’t even agree with him – which is good because he’s wrong.

The details about what happened in Kansas City over the weekend – but let’s be serious, Jovan Belcher was be enough, strong enough and mad enough that he could’ve killed his girlfriend with his bare hands if he didn’t have a gun.

There are many ways to kill a person if you are determined to do it – a gun is just one of many options. Instead of getting rid of guns, why not discuss mental illness, prescription drug use, anger management, and domestic violence – just for starters….