Muslim Husbands are Required to Hate Their Non-Muslim Wives

According to the Koran, Muslim Husbands are allowed to marry non-Muslim women, or women from “the people of the book,” referring to Christians and Jews, but they are required to hate them.  Dr. Yassir Burhami, vice president of the Salafi party in Egypt, explains that the little known Islamic doctrine of wala’ wa bara’, often translated as Loyalty and Enmity, commands Muslims never to befriend or be loyal to non-Muslims, while being clean of, disavowing and ultimately hating them.  This law even extends to their wives.  When questioned about how this would work, Dr. Burhami goes on with a weird comparison to rape.

We have to ask ourselves how much more a non-Muslim person, who is not a wife, must be hated.

Here is the full story in Human Events, written by Raymond Ibrahim.

…During a question-and-answer session at an Islamic conference (see video below), the full extent of this divisive doctrine was given full expression.  Popular preacher Dr. Yassir Burhami, the vice president of the Salafi party in Egypt, explained how this doctrine must be upheld at all times—even with a Muslim’s wife, if she happens to be a non-Muslim member of the “People of the Book,” (Christians and Jews, whom Muslim males are permitted to marry from; conversely, male Christians and Jews are strictly banned from marrying Muslim females).

When an attendee asked Burhami how Islam can allow a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim woman and yet expect him to hate her, the sheikh responded as follows:

Where’s the objection? Do all men love their wives?  How many married couples live together despite disagreements and problems? Huh? That being the case, he [Muslim husband] may love the way she [non-Muslim woman] looks, or love the way she raises the children, or love that she has money. This is why he’s discouraged from marrying among the People of the Book—because she has no [real] religion. He is ordered to make her hate her religion while continuing marriage/sexual relations with her. This is a very standard matter….  Of course he should tell her that he hates her religion. He must show her that he hates her because of her religion, and because she is an infidel. But if possible, treat her well—perhaps that will cause her to convert to Islam. He should invite her to Islam and call her to Allah.

Dr. Burhami further used the example of rape as an analogy:

In fact, let me tell you: whoever rapes a woman, does he necessarily love her? Or is he just sleeping with her? He’s sleeping with her for her body’s sake only, and he does not love her in reality, because if he loved her, he wouldn’t have hurt her. Therefore it is possible to have sexual relations [between a Muslim man and a Christian or Jewish woman] without love. This is possible, but as we said, he is commanded to hate her.

Next, Burhami exonerated infidel-wife-hating by quoting the Koran verses that form the cornerstone of the doctrine of Loyalty and Enmity:

Otherwise what do you do with the undisputed texts [of the Koran], such as “Thou wilt not find any people who believe in Allah and the Last Day, loving those who resist Allah and His Messenger, even though they were their fathers or their sons, or their brothers, or their kindred… “O ye who believe! take not the Jews and the Christians for your friends and protectors…”  [Koran 58:22 and 5:51, Yusuf Ali translation].  What do you do with such a verse? What do you do will all these verses?

Indeed, “what do you do with all these verses?”

This is the crux of the problem between so-called Islamists and so-called moderates: Islamic scriptures—like “all these verses” quoted by Burhami—often side with the “radical” (and intolerant, and hostile, and violent, and supremacist) worldview of the Islamists, leaving the moderates without much of a leg to stand on in the realm of Islamic exegesis.

When asked if a Muslim husband can at least greet his wife—according to Islam’s prophet, Muslims are not permitted to offer greetings to non-Muslims—Burhami was consistent:

When he [Muslim husband] comes home, he should not be the first to greet her. He may greet his children [because they are Muslim] or he can offer a general greeting if any other Muslims are present, meaning them by it [but allowing her to think it’s for her]. These are mainstream commands…  She has to begin with greeting him, and then he may respond.

If this is how Islam expects the Muslim to treat his non-Muslim wife, simply because she is an “infidel,” how must it expect him to feel about non-Muslim strangers—like the majority of you reading this?


War on Christmas – Good For Christians?

Before you post mean comments – hear me out.

There is a so called “war on Christmas” which is forcing people to look at Christmas differently.

BUT – it is also stirring up a lot of discussion (some pretty loud) about Christmas being a Christian holiday and tied to religion.

Now – seriously, we all should be able to admit there are many people celebrating Christmas that don’t mention or include any thought or appreciation of Christ and the reason he came to earth.

How many children could you talk to – that only mention the presents at Christmas? I think it would be far too many.

Its all about the presents, over eating, buying far more presents than you can afford and most are never used or rarely used.

So – isn’t it good when people prompt a conversation that gets people talking about and thinking about Jesus?

Whether a person celebrates Christmas or not – they are bombarded with the decorations, the music, the sales, and all the other parts of Christmas. While it can be irritating for people who chose not to celebrate for whatever reason, but if people chose to celebrate, I say — leave them alone and let them have the celebration.

If they include a consideration of a higher power and the “meaning” of Christmas – it could provide a little faith and culture for their children – and many people can use more faith and culture….

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