If one person is offended we have to listen — Is He Kidding

I had to do a double take when I heard Commission Goodell’s comment — “If one person is offended, we have to listen.” Now – I’m not saying that we should intentionally do something to make others mad or to offend people. However, take a close look around and I think you will notice that there are a lot of spineless people who our grandparents would call wusses. Other names come to mind, but I’ll still with that one.

This article caught my attention because I’ve been a long time Redskin’s fan and I’m so tired of people talking about changing a sports team name or anything else like this because “one person is offended.” Let me put this very clearly — if you look hard enough, it is really easy to find some reason to be offended. But put that effort into something positive and you will be amazed how many positive things are “out there” just waiting to be discovered.

What happened to “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”

“The test of courage comes when we are in the minority.  The test of tolerance comes when we are in the majority.-Ralph W. Sockman

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled.  For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” -Unknown

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.” -Ambrose Redmoon

(A full page here – http://math.fullerton.edu/sannin/Hobbies/quotes/quote-challenges/quote-challenges.html)

There was a time when people had respect for others, when they understand that in any game/competition there are winners and (gasp) losers, they understand that hard work was needed to succeed, and only a very few people who we thought were strange – felt entitled to something for nothing. Sadly – those days are long  gone for some people.

We are in the age of “everyone gets a trophy”, “there are no winners or losers”, “students who expect to graduate only because they showed up”, “employees who can’t be bothered to learn how to do their job well, but still expect to be paid very well”. These are the same people who complain they don’t make enough – but are not willing to understand that people are often paid, based on their value to their employer. Not paid because they take up space, but by the actual value they bring to the job.

Let me take you back to a county school in rural VA – in the mid 70s to the mid 80s. Let’s look at a young girl who was taller than usual throughout school and was over 6′ tall at 13. She was very quiet and loved school, and got very good grades. In 7th grade she got braces. She was in band through 6th, 7th and 8th grade. There are a number of reasons in there to be picked on – but let’s add one more element. Her family were part of a religion that included many things which were not allowed – this included not celebrating any holidays or birthdays, nothing patriotic like the pledge of allegiance, and very few if any extra curricular activities. Can you imagine the times she was hassled, insulted, teased, and treated badly by students over the years? These issues also meant she would not be able to play basketball – and that caused years of added pressure. She left the classroom for every holiday party and birthday celebration and on and on and on.

But never once in those 12 years did I feel that everyone else should stop their celebrations or activities etc – because these were things I could not participate in. I can tell you with no hesitation that this was hard, there were plenty of times I went home and cried when I was younger and times I felt like the strangest person in the school — but over the years, it did help me understand that a person can be different and its okay. There can be some advantages to being different and once you walk out of school for the last time – nobody remembers all of those differences.

My feeling is that you can let trials stomp you and keep you down OR you can use them to develop character, become stronger and prepare for truly hard times that will come at some point. Anyone who thinks they can whine their way through life and be happy and successful — is delusional. And yes – I’m sure that comment with offend some people. But maybe if a person feels offended, they should take some time to figure out WHY they are offended and if they may need to make some changes…..


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